Inclusive Adult Products Designed for the LGBTQ+ Community

In the modern world of adult products, pleasure is for everyone – regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation. Yet for many years, the adult toy industry catered mostly to a heteronormative, gendered perspective, often labeling items “for him” or “for her.” Today, that is changing. Companies are recognizing the need for inclusive sex toys that embrace the full spectrum of the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. This shift isn’t just about adding rainbows to packaging; it’s about fundamentally rethinking design and marketing so that everyone can explore intimacy without feeling left out or alienated.

An inclusive adult product is one that any person can enjoy, no matter who they are. That could mean a gender-neutral toy with an abstract shape, a trans-friendly harness that accommodates different anatomies, or simply marketing that doesn’t box people into stereotypes. In this blog, we’ll explore why inclusivity in adult products matters, what makes a toy truly LGBTQ+-friendly, and how these innovative products are promoting inclusivity in the bedroom and beyond.

Why Inclusivity in Adult Products Matters

For far too long, shopping for sex toys could be an alienating experience for LGBTQ+ individuals. Many retail sites and stores divided products into “men’s toys” and “women’s toys,” leaving little room for those who didn’t fit those categories. This lack of representation sent an implicit message that pleasure wasn’t designed for everyone. But the truth is, everyone deserves a satisfying intimate life. As one inclusive toy brand puts it, “everyone deserves to experience pleasure without judgment or restriction,” and offering products that cater to all bodies helps create a sex-positive culture embracing all identities.

Inclusivity in adult products is important for both emotional and practical reasons. Emotionally, having toys designed for your needs can make you feel seen and validated. It breaks down barriers and erases the shame or “otherness” that LGBTQ+ folks might have felt when using products not marketed to them. Practically, inclusive designs can address specific challenges – for example, a transgender man (assigned female at birth) might experience gender dysphoria with toys overtly shaped like a certain anatomy, but a neutral toy can provide pleasure without triggering discomfort. In fact, studies have noted that some trans and non-binary individuals will avoid using sex toys that draw attention to dysphoric body parts, yet they also report enjoying sex toy play more than certain other sexual activities once they find comfortable options. This highlights how crucial it is to have gender-affirming products available – the right toy can turn gender dysphoria into gender euphoria by helping someone feel good in their own skin.

Ultimately, inclusive adult products matter because they send a powerful message: your pleasure is valid, and it belongs to you. No one should feel that intimacy or exploration is off-limits to them because of who they are. By ensuring there are options for every orientation and gender identity, the adult industry contributes to a more inclusive, accepting society.

Key Features of LGBTQ+ Inclusive Sex Toys

What makes a sex toy or adult product “inclusive” or designed for the LGBTQ+ community? It’s not just slapping a rainbow sticker on a box. Truly inclusive products share some common features and design philosophies:

• Gender-Neutral Design: Inclusive toys often have non-gendered shapes and colors. Rather than overtly “masculine” or “feminine” aesthetics, they use muted, universal colors and sleek, simple forms. For instance, the founder of Maude (a modern intimacy brand) explained that their gender-inclusive approach of using minimalist design and neutral tones aims to “break taboos and make sexual wellness more inclusive”. This means a toy could look like an abstract sculpture or a tech gadget rather than a realistic body part. A great example is Wild Flower’s innovative vibrator called the “Enby,” which is a soft, silicone toy that vaguely resembles a friendly stingray shape – nothing about it screams male or female anatomy. Because of that, anyone can find a way to use it on their body in whichever way feels good. Such “amorphous blob” designs (as one writer described them) are becoming more common, proving that toys don’t need to look like traditional big rubber penises or stereotypical pink wands to be pleasurable.

• Versatility and Multi-Functionality: Inclusive adult products are often engineered to be versatile so they can adapt to different bodies and preferences. Instead of a toy that serves one narrow purpose, a multi-use toy can be enjoyed in various ways. For example, some designs can double up as both a clitoral vibrator and a penetrative toy depending on how you hold them, or have attachments to suit different anatomies. One innovative product, the Satisfyer Elastic Game, is basically a flexible loop of silicone that can function as a cock ring, a lay-on vibrator, or even be placed between partners during intercourse for shared stimulation. By designing toys to be multi-purpose, companies ensure that a single product can cater to people of any gender – it’s the ultimate gender-neutral approach. Likewise, simple classics like wand vibrators are celebrated as wonderfully inclusive because a wand’s large vibrating head can stimulate virtually any body part. As the experts at LELO note, a wand toy “can be used with equal enjoyment by anyone” since its intense vibrations provide pleasure regardless of anatomy.

• Avoiding Stereotypes in Marketing: Inclusive design extends to how products are marketed and described. You’ll find that LGBTQ+-friendly brands avoid phrases like “his and hers” or assumptions about who uses what. Instead, they focus on functions (vaginal vibrator, anal plug, etc.) without assigning a gender to the user. Packaging and advertising feature diverse models – including different gender expressions, body types, and couples of all orientations. This representation matters: when you see someone like yourself in a product listing or campaign, it signals that the product was made with you in mind. In recent years, many companies have started removing gendered language from packaging and websites. One reviewer famously noted that the gender of a toy is mostly just in the packaging and marketing – the toy itself can usually be enjoyed by anyone willing to try (after all, a vibrating object or a dildo can give pleasure to people of any gender, even if it was once marketed to a specific one). By rethinking marketing with inclusivity at the forefront, brands are actively welcoming queer, trans, and non-binary customers who previously felt overlooked.

• Body-Safe and Quality Materials: While this isn’t exclusive to LGBTQ+ products, it’s worth noting that many inclusive-focused brands put an emphasis on safety and quality. Marginalized communities, including LGBTQ+ folks, may have unique health considerations or simply deserve the reassurance that these products are made responsibly. Look for toys made of body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, hard ABS plastic, stainless steel, or borosilicate glass. These materials are non-porous and phthalate-free, meaning they won’t harbor bacteria or leach harmful chemicals. Inclusive pleasure is also about trust and well-being – everyone deserves to enjoy intimacy without risk. Many inclusive brands also consider other accessibility features, like easy-to-use designs for those with limited mobility, showing that inclusivity can overlap with disability-friendly design as well.

Inclusive Adult Products for Different Needs

The LGBTQ+ community is incredibly diverse, encompassing a range of genders, bodies, and relationship dynamics. Consequently, “inclusive adult products” isn’t a one-size-fits-all category – it’s a broad collection of items designed to meet various needs. Let’s explore some of the key categories of inclusive sex toys and how they serve different people:

Gender-Neutral Toys for Anyone’s Pleasure

Gender-neutral sex toys are those that aren’t geared toward a specific gender’s anatomy. These are often the most versatile toys. Think of items like vibrating wands, suction stimulators, bullet vibrators, and anal toys. None of these rely on the user having a particular body configuration – a wand can stimulate a vulva, a penis, a trans man’s chest, or any erogenous zone; a suction toy marketed for clitoral use might also feel great on nipples or other sensitive spots. Anal toys (such as plugs or prostate massagers) are inherently gender-neutral as well, since any gender can enjoy anal pleasure if they choose. In fact, anal toys are often cited as some of the most “queer-friendly” products, because they’re used by people across the spectrum for prostate or simply erotic anal stimulation. Similarly, products like bondage gear and restraints (handcuffs, ropes, blindfolds) are typically not gendered at all – anyone can use them on anyone. By focusing on sensations rather than gendered assumptions, these toys invite everyone to play. Many gender-neutral toys also have creative shapes that don’t resemble traditional genitals, which can be especially comforting for non-binary or genderfluid individuals. There’s a saying popular in the industry: “No matter what your body looks like, your body is a sex-toy body – pleasure is for everyone.” The rise of gender-neutral toys truly embodies that motto.

Toys for LGBTQ+ Couples and Orientations

Many adult products have been developed with same-sex couples or queer intimacy in mind, though of course their use isn’t limited to one orientation. For example, strap-ons and harness-compatible dildos have long been popular with lesbian couples, allowing one partner to penetrate the other. The best strap-on sets for queer women often feature softer materials, playful colors, and even double-ended designs – these allow both partners to feel stimulation simultaneously. (One partner wears the harness with one end of the toy inside them and the other end for their partner.) These designs foster intimacy and equality in play. Gay male couples, on the other hand, might explore double-ended dildos built for two people to use at once, or they might use shared vibrating toys that both can feel. Remote-controlled toys are also a hit across the board – for instance, a wearable vibrator with a remote lets one partner (of any gender) control the other’s pleasure from afar, which can be a fun power exchange for queer couples just as much as straight ones.

One important aspect of inclusivity is acknowledging that couples come in all combinations of bodies. Two people with vulvas might want to use a double dildo or a strapless strap-on that connects them. Two people with penises might use a double-ended strokers or vibrating rings made for two. And of course, many products originally designed “for couples” (like dual-stimulation vibrators) can work for any couple that finds a creative use for them. What makes these LGBTQ+ products special is often just the marketing and included instructions showing diverse couples using them, which gives customers ideas and confidence. Also, inclusive brands usually avoid assuming pronouns – they’ll say “partner 1 and partner 2” instead of “man and woman,” for instance. This small change in language makes a big difference in making all couples feel welcome.

Transgender-Friendly Products and Gender-Affirming Gear

Perhaps some of the most vital inclusive adult products are those designed specifically for transgender and non-binary individuals to affirm their gender and provide comfort. These can range from items used in daily life to toys used in intimate moments. A few examples include:

• Packers and Packing Harnesses: A “packer” is a prosthetic (often made of silicone or soft material) that mimics the look and feel of a penis bulge. Trans men and some non-binary folks assigned female at birth might wear a soft packer in their underwear to alleviate dysphoria and feel more aligned with their identity. While a packer itself isn’t exactly a “sex toy” (it’s usually not for penetration, just form), it crosses into the adult product realm. Many companies make **packing harnesses** or underwear – special garments that securely hold a packer in place. These range from simple elastic straps to briefs with built-in pockets for a packer. Some packing harnesses even double as strap-on harnesses (often called “pack-and-play” devices), meaning the user can go from day wear to intimate use with the same device. This is incredibly affirming for trans masculine people who want to engage in penetrative sex: they can use a single prosthetic or dildo both as a packer and then for lovemaking by attaching it to a harness when the moment is right. The convenience and psychological comfort of this cannot be overstated.

• Stand-to-Pee (STP) Devices: An STP is a type of packer or prosthetic that allows trans men to urinate standing up. While again not a “pleasure” toy per se, it’s worth noting because some STP devices can also function for penetration or stimulation. The design usually includes a hollow shaft that can carry fluid, but some have extensions or textures that make them usable during play. The existence of STPs in many adult stores (often listed under gender-affirming products) demonstrates the inclusive approach – recognizing that sexual wellness is holistic and includes everyday confidence as well.

• Tucking Garments: On the other side, some trans women and AMAB (assigned male at birth) non-binary folks use tucking panties or gaffs to flatten the groin area. These products, often sold by LGBTQ+ focused retailers, help people feel more comfortable in lingerie or during intimacy by keeping things smooth. While not “toys,” they are part of the inclusive adult product family in that they cater to a specific gender expression need.

• Trans-Friendly Strap-On Harnesses: Traditional strap-on harnesses assumed the wearer has a flat pelvic area (like many cisgender women). But what if the wearer has existing anatomy up front, like a penis or post-surgery anatomy that doesn’t fit traditional harnesses? Enter specially designed harnesses such as the SpareParts Deuce, which has a unique two-hole system. This harness allows a person with a penis to insert their own anatomy through one opening while also securing a dildo in another. Originally intended to help cis men with erectile dysfunction continue penetrative sex (by using a dildo alongside their penis), it’s been a game-changer for some trans women and non-binary folks. They can engage in strap-on play without having to “hide” or be uncomfortable with their own genitals – the harness accommodates everything. Reviewers have noted that these harnesses are adjustable and come in multiple sizes to fit different body shapes (for instance, the Deuce fits waists from about 20” up to 50” with one model, and there are plus-size options as well) *[note: SpareParts sizing info]*. This is both trans-inclusive and size-inclusive design in action. Other harnesses might include pouches for holding a vibrator against the wearer’s anatomy or padding for comfort, recognizing that the wearer could be anyone – trans, cis, any gender. Moreover, many brands now offer plus-size strap-on harnesses and lingerie up to 3X, 4X, and beyond, ensuring that larger-bodied LGBTQ+ folks aren’t excluded from the fun.

• Dilators and Post-Surgery Aids: For trans women who have undergone gender affirmation surgery (vaginoplasty), a set of dilators is often needed to maintain the vaginal canal. Some companies produce dilator kits in cute colors or with carrying cases that feel less medical and more empowering. While these are medical devices in one sense, they’re intimately tied to sexual health and comfort, and finding a dilator kit from an LGBTQ+-friendly company can make the process feel more dignified. Even beyond surgery, dilators or smaller insertable toys can help anyone (trans or cis) gently explore penetration at their own pace. A quality, body-safe dilator set can be an inclusive product for people who need a little help acclimating to penetration (for example, trans women early in transition, or non-binary individuals on estrogen who experience changes in elasticity).

• Gender-Inclusive Strokers & Pumps: Not all trans men have bottom surgery (phalloplasty or metoidioplasty), yet some still enjoy genital stimulation. Toy designers have recognized this and made strokers specifically sized for trans masculine folks. One famous example is the Buck-OFF (named after Buck Angel, a trans activist), which is essentially a small stroker sleeve tailored for trans men who have experienced clitoral growth from testosterone. It allows them to simulate the feeling of “traditional” stroking masturbation. Similarly, vacuum pumps which were marketed to “women” as clitoral pumps can be used by trans men on growth tissue or by anyone on various body parts – so manufacturers have re-branded some as “gender neutral pumps” for enhancing sensitivity regardless of anatomy. These inclusive tweaks ensure people don’t feel like they are using a toy “wrong” if it wasn’t originally sold for them.

The big picture is that gender-affirming toys and tools empower individuals to enjoy sex and masturbation in ways that align with their identity. They close the gap between what someone’s body is and what they feel it should be, at least during those intimate moments. This not only enhances pleasure but can significantly boost confidence and body-positivity for LGBTQ+ users.

Promoting Inclusivity in the Adult Industry

Inclusive adult products aren’t just changing individual bedrooms – they’re also pushing the industry itself to be more accepting and diverse. Many LGBTQ+-focused and queer-owned sex toy companies have emerged, and they are doing things differently. For one, they often create safe, welcoming shopping environments online. Rather than the seedy or awkward atmosphere that adult stores once had, these modern retailers use friendly language, offer educational blogs and guides, and feature representation of LGBTQ+ people in their content. This helps customers feel at ease, especially those who might be nervous about buying their first toy while questioning their gender or orientation. It’s not uncommon for such sites to explicitly state their mission of inclusivity. If a company proclaims its values of diversity and sex-positivity up front, that’s a good sign they curate products for all genders. Additionally, many LGBTQ-owned toy shops prioritize customer privacy (discreet packaging, billing, etc.), knowing that for some customers, confidentiality is crucial.

Another way the industry is promoting inclusivity is through education and outreach. Brands supporting the LGBTQ+ community often provide informational resources on topics like sexual health, consent, and tips for queer intimacy. For example, it’s common to see guides on “How to Choose a Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy” or “Understanding Strap-Ons for Beginners” on these websites. By demystifying products and addressing the specific questions LGBTQ+ individuals have, they not only sell a product but also empower the user with knowledge. This educational angle helps break down the remaining taboos around queer sex. When people can read about others with similar experiences and get advice tailored to them, it fosters a sense of community and normalizes LGBTQ+ pleasure.

Representation in product development is improving too. Some companies are hiring LGBTQ+ designers or working directly with community advocates to create new products. We’ve already mentioned Buck Angel’s collaboration on a trans masculine toy. There are also lesbian-owned companies designing toys with queer women in mind, and trans entrepreneurs launching their own product lines. When the voices of marginalized genders and sexualities are behind the products, the results tend to be more thoughtful and innovative. A great example is Cute Little Fuckers (a queer-owned brand), which designs whimsical, genderless creature-themed vibrators – each toy is created by a non-binary designer and tested with a diverse group to ensure it sparks joy and works for different bodies. These kinds of companies don’t see the LGBTQ+ community as just a market niche; they see it as their family. As a result, they often give back through donations to LGBTQ+ charities or sponsoring Pride events, further aligning pleasure with pride and inclusion.

It’s also worth noting how mainstream brands are reacting. Larger, well-established toy manufacturers have taken note of the inclusivity movement. Some have launched gender-neutral product lines or adjusted their marketing to be less heteronormative. For instance, brands like LELO and b-Vibe have published LGBTQ+ toy guides and include same-sex couples in their marketing materials. When big players make these changes, it signals that inclusivity is not just a buzzword but a genuine shift in the market. The more we see diversity in advertisements, packaging, and store layouts, the more normalized LGBTQ+ intimacy becomes in society’s eyes.

All these efforts promote inclusivity far beyond just selling more toys. They help validate LGBTQ+ relationships and sexualities in public discourse. They contribute to individuals’ mental health by affirming that yes, you deserve pleasure and there are tools to help you find it. And they invite everyone – regardless of label – to explore what feels good without shame. In this way, inclusive adult products and the companies behind them are quietly advancing LGBTQ+ acceptance, one orgasm at a time.

Tips for Choosing an Inclusive Sex Toy

With the growing selection of inclusive and LGBTQ+-friendly products, how do you pick the right one for you or your partner? Here are a few tips to keep in mind when shopping for an inclusive adult toy:

• Think About Your Anatomy and Dysphoria Triggers: Start with what works for your body. If you know certain body parts are sources of dysphoria or discomfort, look for toys that don’t center on those areas. For example, if penetrating with a realistic-looking toy makes you uneasy, opt for a non-phallic dildo or a vibration-based toy instead. Conversely, if you crave a certain sensation that your anatomy alone doesn’t provide, find a toy that offers that (like a strap-on to experience penetration from the giving side, or a vibrator to enhance sensations during intercourse).

• Look for Versatile, Gender-Neutral Options: As mentioned, toys that have multiple uses or adjustable features can be great investments. A toy that “can be enjoyed by everyone” is ideal if you’re uncertain or if you plan to use it with partners of different genders. Versatility means the toy will remain useful to you even if your preferences evolve. Many gender-neutral toys advertise their flexibility in use, so read descriptions for phrases like “multi-purpose,” “unisex design,” or “for all bodies.” For instance, a silicone sleeve that can function as a masturbator or an insertable bullet vibe that doubles as a clitoral stimulator gives you options to experiment.

• Avoid Gendered Gimmicks and Stereotypes: Be wary of marketing that seems overly gendered or stereotypical. A pink package with cursive “for her pleasure” might not necessarily be a bad toy, but it could indicate the company hasn’t embraced inclusivity fully. Instead, seek out brands that emphasize function and fun over gender. Plenty of modern toys “don’t look like silicon molds of bodiless genitalia” and are more whimsical or abstract. These creative designs can offer a unique, personal experience without any baggage of traditional sex toys. If you find yourself smiling or feeling relaxed looking at a toy’s shape and color, that’s a great sign! Toys should invite you to play, not make you feel intimidated or alienated.

• Quality and Body-Safety Are Non-Negotiable: Always choose reputable brands that use body-safe materials – this is important for everyone, but especially if you’re shopping from smaller boutique brands or Etsy sellers (some awesome gender-affirming gear comes from independent crafters). Read reviews if possible; see if other LGBTQ+ customers have had good experiences. Investing in a well-made product ensures you can explore pleasure confidently, without irritation or risk from the product itself. Remember that inclusivity also means inclusive of health and comfort.

• Support Brands that Support You: If having a positive social impact matters to you, do a little homework on the company. Many LGBTQ+-focused stores and manufacturers are open about their values – they might donate a portion of proceeds to LGBTQ+ causes, have diverse staff, or engage in advocacy. Buying from these businesses means you’re directly supporting the community. Furthermore, such brands are likely to have the knowledge and customer service sensitivity to help you with any questions specific to your situation. For example, a queer-owned shop can often suggest products for a non-binary person better than a generic big-box retailer could. Don’t hesitate to reach out to customer support with your specific needs; an inclusive company will happily guide you without making assumptions.

Conclusion: Embracing Pleasure for All

The landscape of adult products is more vibrant and inclusive than ever. From gender-neutral toys that anyone can enjoy, to trans-friendly harnesses and gender-affirming accessories, the industry has made huge strides in recognizing and celebrating the diversity of its users. This evolution is about more than just products on a shelf; it’s about changing the narrative of who “deserves” pleasure. The answer, of course, is everyone does.

As we’ve discussed, inclusive adult products designed for the LGBTQ+ community provide more than just fun in the bedroom – they offer validation, comfort, and empowerment. A well-designed toy can help someone explore their body on their own terms, easing dysphoria and boosting confidence. Couples of any orientation can deepen intimacy using products created with them in mind, rather than awkwardly repurposing items that weren’t. And importantly, these inclusive products spread a message in society that intimacy has no orientation or gender – it’s a human experience.

If you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community (or an ally looking to better understand it), diving into this inclusive product world can be a joyful and enlightening journey. You might discover new types of stimulation that you hadn’t considered before, precisely because now there’s a toy tailored for that. You might feel a sense of community, knowing that the toy in your hand was crafted by people who care about your experience. And you can take pride (pun intended) in supporting businesses that uphold values of diversity and acceptance.

Remember, the goal of all these innovations is to ensure that no one feels excluded from exploring and enjoying their sexuality. Whether you identify as gay, lesbian, bi, trans, non-binary, queer, or anything else under the rainbow (or even if you’re straight but just want something different and high-quality), inclusive adult products are there for you. The world of pleasure is as diverse as the world of people – and that’s a wonderful thing. So go ahead: celebrate your identity, communicate with your partner(s) about what you’d like to try, and explore the growing array of inclusive sex toys and adult products available. In doing so, you’re not only claiming your right to pleasure, you’re also contributing to a more inclusive, sex-positive culture for all.

Because at the end of the day, promoting inclusivity in the bedroom simply means acknowledging that pleasure has no gender, no orientation – it belongs to everyone.